Well...

"12and35" (12and35) 09/06/2016 at 22:51 • Filed to: None

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My boyfriend decided he didn’t want to be with me anymore!...soooo....Where do we go from here?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s7bixh…

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 22:57

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I recommend the 1996 Camry SE Coupe

gmctavish needs more space > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 22:58

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Drinks?

Nibby > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 22:58

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live your dream and marry a 1992 volvo 240 wagon

yamahog > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 22:59

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go have fun :)

CB > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 23:00

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Hang out with friends, get in a good night’s sleep, and tackle tomorrow with all you’ve got. Shit sucks, and it’ll suck for a long while, but it’ll get better.

Rico > gmctavish needs more space 09/06/2016 at 23:00

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DELERIUM TREMENS!

fhrblig > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 23:03

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Eh, you’ll find another one. Get out of the house and have fun.

12and35 > fhrblig 09/06/2016 at 23:05

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This is true. Nothing a few bourbons can’t fix :) My cats are terrified though, they know something isn’t “right”

jkm7680 > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 23:07

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Now go do everything you wouldn't do with him around :P

interstate366, now In The Industry > gmctavish needs more space 09/06/2016 at 23:07

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That was going to be my suggestion.

If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 23:07

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Sit down in front of a funny movie with some ice cream and wine.

The Crazy Kanuck; RIP Oppositelock > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 23:14

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Black jack & hookers.

12and35 > The Crazy Kanuck; RIP Oppositelock 09/06/2016 at 23:19

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This is a joke... Seriously.

12and35 > Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo 09/06/2016 at 23:22

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We only drive German around here.....

I’m kidding. I have a friend who had one of those... it was kinda neat. Before te Solara

smobgirl > 12and35 09/06/2016 at 23:33

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Go do something crazy that you've always wanted to do, like bungee jump or hang glide or something. I find adrenaline really helps!

bhtooefr > Rico 09/06/2016 at 23:36

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That stuff is dangerous.

Also expensive.

wafflesnfalafel > If only EssExTee could be so grossly incandescent 09/07/2016 at 00:03

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or youtube vids with Doritos and beer

Rico > bhtooefr 09/07/2016 at 00:14

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That shit is Grade A, I love it. I can get it decently priced at a supermarket warehouse not too far from me.

TheD0k_2many toys 2little time > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 00:15

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time to build a race car. that’s what im doing since my GF left me haha

Alex Zapata > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 00:26

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Lock the door, close the blinds, put on your favorite movie/series and open a bottle of wine and order some pizza, get sloppy drunk on your own, then tomorrow pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep walking, you’ll be 100% ok; you had a life before you met him and you will certainly have a damn good life without him.

Mid Engine > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 00:28

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sleep with ALL of his friends, immediately. Then go buy the car he lusted after but couldn’t afford, cuz he was an asshole.

AfromanGTO > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 00:34

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I guess I will give you the oddball idea. Go to bed early, and then go for a nice long morning run. Or if you can’t sleep go for a really long run. Don’t stop running until you feel like you’re going to blackout, and then run back home. Take a shower and pass out. Repeat in the morning.

Tohru > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 00:46

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chain him to the water heater until he changes his mind?

gmctavish needs more space > Rico 09/07/2016 at 01:11

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Such a good thing

12and35 > Mid Engine 09/07/2016 at 02:37

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Hahahahaha you get a gold star for that one, lol....

Out, but with a W - has found the answer > gmctavish needs more space 09/07/2016 at 02:48

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Wut, Delirium is exported? What do you guys have to pay for it then?

Out, but with a W - has found the answer > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 02:57

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Go for a long drive along some backroads or a deserted highway. Driving can be seriously cathartic if you don’t have to deal with traffic. Just focus on the road and your car, and let your thoughts roam.

Disclaimer: best not combine this with the beer/bourbon ideas.

Svend > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 02:57

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Well it’s his loss and your better off without someone who wouldn’t rather talk about what’s wrong, but then again it’s best to be over quickly than drawn out if one person doesn’t want to be with the other.

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > jkm7680 09/07/2016 at 04:07

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Yeah! He should fart in the living room!

BiTurbo228 - Dr Frankenstein of Spitfires > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 04:18

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Huh, funny, going through that at the moment as well. Except that my GF is ‘confused’ and not sure what she wants to do.

Usually I’d call it myself at that point, but her dad has recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer which can send people a little bit loopy.

Now I have to wait in limbo til Saturday when we’ve arranged to meet and it’s dog-shit.

Personally, I find reading to be a good escape while you’re awake, but it’s the sleep that you really need to get past things. During sleep, the mind loosens the connections between memories. Part of the reason why drowning your sorrows is such a terrible idea, as it fucks with your sleeping patterns.

12and35 > BiTurbo228 - Dr Frankenstein of Spitfires 09/07/2016 at 05:00

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I’d rather have it over than in limbo. That’s tense as heck. I don’t know why relationships seem harder these days

12and35 > Svend 09/07/2016 at 05:01

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It was so random. My apartment feels empty

Svend > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 05:17

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It’ll take a while to get used to the quiet again but you will because your better off without him.

The way I see it is. Yes we had good times but they aren’t going to dwell on the fact they did something wrong so why should I as the person being wronged waste my time and energy on what they did.

Sometimes you’ve got to get a few mates round, open some wine or beer and have a good old rant about them and the opposite sex in general, get it off your chest and out your system and pick yourself up and dust yourself off.

nerd_racing > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 07:52

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I went through this with my girlfriend 2 years ago. Take your time and learn to be yourself and to love being yourself. Hopefully it is a shorter process for you than it has been for me, still on the market.

nerd_racing > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 07:53

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I recommend a 1 series. Hell I’ll sell mine to you cheap!

nerd_racing > Out, but with a W - has found the answer 09/07/2016 at 07:56

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I did this after my last breakup, I drove close to 3000 miles that week. Just decided I needed to be anywhere but home. Traded in my Mazda 2 for a 128i (I miss the 2 sometimes still) and had a lot of fun!

BiTurbo228 - Dr Frankenstein of Spitfires > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 08:17

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No idea about these days, mine have always been tough, but I definitely agree with you on the limbo thing. It’s really not fun :S

On the plus side, I do have a plan either way so at least I know what to do :)

nermal > Denver Is Stuck In The 90s 09/07/2016 at 09:54

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Counterpoint: CUP-O-CHEESE!!!

gmctavish needs more space > Out, but with a W - has found the answer 09/07/2016 at 11:11

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Apparently, I only see it at Liquor stores with early good beer selection though. I think it’s usually $4.99 a bottle? I can’t quite remember

pauljones > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 11:13

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What now?

Well, quite simply, you . As in you do you. Whatever feels right at the moment, do it* - forget about whether or not its rational. As humans being, we are not rational creatures. We are, however, usually reasonable creatures; and doing things that feel good right at any given moment is perfectly reasonable at times like this. If you’re going to heal and move on, you have to be in the mood to do so. It also helps if you’re happy and confident in your ability to do so.

So, what do you want to do? Do you want Taco Bell 1:47 am on a Wednesday from that place two towns over? Go get some fucking Taco Bell. Randomly feel the urge to by a six-pack of beers and do six hours of lawn work while listening to Savage Garden? Go for it. Who gives a shit if it’s some public park across town? Motherfuckers should have been maintaining the damn park themselves if they didn’t want this to happen, and they should be damn grateful someone is doing it for them!

The point is this: You’re in a lot of turmoil right now, and I’m sorry for that. Break-ups suck, especially when you suddenly find yourself in an empty place. If you want to take a little time to just be upset for a while, go for it. But remember that the only balance for a bunch of negative experiences is a bunch of positive experiences. We all have responsibilities that we have to take care of (paychecks are nice, you know?), but outside of that, do things that you want to do. If there is a hobby or activity you’ve always thought looked interesting, now’s a great time to step in and give it a try.

Whatever you do, though, remember to focus on you, and you alone. You should be the only benefactor you’re thinking about right now. When you do that, and you develop a passion for something (or, alternatively, re-kindle an existing passion for something), you’ll get yourself in a calmer, and more stable state of mind. You’ll be happier and more confident in yourself - and that’s when you can go back and reflect on what happened and think it all through. That’s when you’ll you’ll have enough grounding in the realization of just how awesome you are to not let any insecurities develop.

So off you go - go do you. Mope it out for a bit if you want, then go find ways to fill up every moment of free time that you’ve got.

It’s hard to communicate understanding of this sort of thing without coming off as trivializing what you’re going through, and that’s not my intention. Just know you’re never alone with this sort of thing.

*Within reason - Don’t do anything self-destructive of harmful to others.

themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 11:22

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What now? Well, your life is now like a jeep grand cherokee! Go anywhere.....do anything! YES!

WiscoProud > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 11:44

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Depends, were you the one who’s 12 or were you the 35 year old?

Life sucks sometimes, but its sometimes better to pull the band aid and move on. Keep your head up and remember that he obviously wasn't right for you, and now you can find that person who is.

Out, but with a W - has found the answer > gmctavish needs more space 09/07/2016 at 12:27

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That’s... not too bad actually, similar to what you’d pay in a bar in a tourist hotspot in Belgium (say, Brugge or the Grand Place in Brussels). It’s $1.45/bottle in the stores though. ;)

gmctavish needs more space > Out, but with a W - has found the answer 09/07/2016 at 13:58

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Oh that's better than I'd expect. Oh damn, that's a much better price though haha. We get a surprisingly good selection of Belgian stuff in Vancouver, it's quite nice. My regulars are Tremens, Duchess de Bourgogne, and Cuvée des Jacobins. I've also got Chimay White, La Trappe, and another good tripel I can't remember the name of right now. I think those are all Belgian at least....

CaptDale - is secretly British > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 16:14

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I am sorry to hear that. I know the feeling. You will be ok, even if you don’t feel like it, you will be.

12and35 > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 17:08

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I want to say thanks to y’all

At least you didn’t say bullshit like “It’s always darkest before dawn”

Lol

The Compromiser > 12and35 09/07/2016 at 19:04

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To be honest with that age gap it’s probably a good thing. I mean 12 and 35? That’s like 47 years between the two of you or something. ..

12and35 > The Compromiser 09/07/2016 at 22:21

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Hahahaha that’s not what it’s from, lol.

Think Bob Dylan.

The Compromiser > 12and35 09/08/2016 at 07:59

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I know, just going for the laugh and a smile. ;)

12and35 > Svend 09/09/2016 at 05:51

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Opposite sex don’t work for me. ;P

Svend > 12and35 09/09/2016 at 08:50

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Oh, sorry mate.

I assumed and assumed incorrectly your gender, my bad.

But it still stands. Have some wine or some beers and have a good old rant about the SOB and get it out your system.

12and35 > Svend 09/09/2016 at 21:24

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Nah it’s cool. One of my favorite things to do is destroy straight guys in car knowledge and shock the hell out of them and then we take shots of bourbon :D

Svend > 12and35 09/09/2016 at 21:38

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Well I don’t have much car knowledge (except Land Rover history) but I think you’ll find you’ve met your match in regards to the bourbon. Though can we make it proper Irish whiskey, k, thanks. Lol.

12and35 > Svend 09/10/2016 at 03:29

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Dalmore Whisky.

Fighting Cock Bourbon

Ballantine.

BRING IT. :P

Svend > 12and35 09/10/2016 at 04:45

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Tullamore Dew

Bushmills

Conemara

Teeling

Jamesons

It’s on dude, it’s on.

Sorry I don’t like using the word ‘dude’.

Let me get more English.

((ahem))

Good sir, I do believe I have in fact, brought it, as you requested. Now prepare oneself to imbibe copious amounts of estery fluids for the purpose of a challange.